After helping someone with a query last night, it further dawned on me just how many people are desperate for romance, love, companionship, a family and someone to grow old with.
It’s tough to be single when all you want is a relationship with someone. It’s tough seeing all the happy couples around you when you are longing to have that companionship and intimacy with someone, too. It’s tough watching friends and family move on towards a different life with their partner and children when you feel like you’re still on the starting line. It’s tough worrying about whether or not the elusive Mr or Mrs Right will ever turn up, especially when you feel you have tried everything.
Hang on to that last line right there. If you think you have tried everything, you are setting yourself up for feeling despondent and miserable. Let’s just tackle this right now. You haven’t tried everything because you have played the game the way you see fit and through your own subjective view. The game is as much mental as it is physical. As an individual, you will have played the game your way. What might happen if you played it differently, like someone else might play it? What results might you get if you played it in a way that you had never before considered?
If you don’t use online dating sites such as Zoosk, Match, eHarmony or Elite Singles, try them! If you have joined over 50s single clubs and didn’t get the results you were after, try an over 30s or over 40s club. If you’ve been trying a match making service, try a different one or use a different approach altogether. If you have only been trying to find a lover, start looking for a friend, first, instead. If you want someone with a certain physique, consider someone who doesn’t fit this criterion. Do you see what I’m saying?
There are lots of different ways to approach this and as humans we tend to indulge in habits, habits of thought and habits of action. Pretend to be someone else for a moment. How might someone else approach this differently, mentally and physically?
Perhaps the sort of partner you think you want and are looking for is not really the exact package your future beau comes in. Perhaps where you’re looking is not the place you are going to find them or perhaps you are not going to find them there this week. Perhaps the mindset you have is not conducive to you identifying a possible mate and so you’re missing possibilities along the way.
Shake up your habits of thought and your habits of action and see what happens when you think and act differently.